Transgender Networking

Networking is important, whether its for work, social, or just fun and play. Before we get into networking yourself as a trans woman, let's ask some important questions.

What are your goals and background?

For the sake of discussion, let's say you have been cross dressing for years but never thought simply putting on the clothes was enough.

Maybe you have ventured out into gay venues and you don't quite fit that venue either. Now what?

More than likely it's time to reach down into the "label" bin and pull out the "transgender" one. You feel the need to express yourself as a female in everyday society. If this is you, read on.

The first lesson to be learned in the bright lights of the world is the need to communicate. As I have said many times, I couldn't believe how many people felt the need to talk to me. Here I was scared to death and they wanted to chat? Really?

I learned quickly the worst course was not to respond. If I was going to walk the walk, I needed to talk the talk. Turned out it was a scary but wise choice.

Like many of you, I was very unsure where I was going in this whole process, but very quickly I was finding out. Very simply I learned the great majority of the public was fine with the fact I was a trans woman, and slowly but surely I started networking my new life. I discovered a new inner peace I had never known. I was home.

Now, your network possibilities are as diverse as you are, so some thing that worked for me may or may not work for you, or you might find options I haven't even explored yet.

I happened to be a huge sports fan and put simply started to go to a couple upscale sports bar in my jeans, boots and sometimes even a jersey-as a girl. Hell, genetic women did it why couldn't I? As luck would have it, within a couple months I actually became accepted as a regular and struck up conversations with the bar tenders and other patrons... mostly women.

Two years later, I'm fortunate to have remained in contact with most of them. Moreover I have also become friends with some of their friends.

My advice would be to be to take one of your favorite interests as a male and transfer them to your female side. Think about it. It's not that hard. Almost all pursuits today have a male and female following. Mine happened to be sports.

Ironically the other networking tool I used was the most foreign one for one of my generation: computer dating.

Actually my participation was more of computer contacting, rather than dating. I won't bore you with the extreme number of contacts I went through on several different sites by both sides of the gender spectrum. I will tell you that I found two dear friends from the process and I am a believer in it if you are careful and patient.

So, good luck on your quest. The bottom line is to follow your soul. She will show you the path. If she doesn't, that's OK too. Maybe she or you aren't ready. Just wait until you are!

This is one of the times that life isn't too short to find your way through a very complex gender process.

Cyrsti Hart


23 June 2012 - @tglife.com

2012-06-23 01:23:00

Crossdressing Transformation

When you decide to permanently dress cross gender dress, a cross dressing transformation will take place. But to have a cross dressing transformation will mean that you have taken several steps towards the goal of dressing like the opposite sex. That might sound easy but trust me, it’s harder than you think. Of course any man can go toss on a dress and away they go but to have him actually look as though he could be a woman, that takes some work.

When you begin your cross dressing transformation you will need to find clothing that will work for your body style and make it look great. For a man that wishes to dress like a woman it would be best for them to look in clothing stores that cater to those who are cross dressers. Reason being that they have their store full of clothes that are made specifically for those who have decided to undergo this mtf transformation.

Something that men might have a problem with when they go looking in any store for clothing is that many tops are made to accommodate breasts. Fortunately if you find that perfect top and you just need the breasts to complete the ensemble there are many bras that are made to both look and feel like they have actual breasts in them. That bra would actually enable you to shop at most any store that sold women’s blouses leaving no cap on what you could wear.

When picking out clothing for your cross dressing transformation no doubt that if you are a man you will want to try the ever classy high heels. Problem with those high heels is that many women have a hard time wearing them leaving it even harder for a man. Not because a man is any less talented than a woman but because of the difference in their size, shape and feet. It’s hard to balance on high heels but to get the practice you need simply wear them around your house before you take the plunge and wear them shopping. Best part is that you will be able to look silly or fall and no one will be there to see you if you practice in your home. But anybody can point out the man who is cross dressing when he goes strutting through the store with no practice.

A very important part of the cross dressing transformation is makeup. Makeup is wonderful as it can soften even the most masculine features. Many men who wear makeup for the first time tend to overdo their makeup a little as they see what they like on a woman and try to imitate it. A way that you can get makeup tips would be to go to your nearest makeup counter and ask them for help. They are trained to be able to help a customer find the best shade to fit their skin. Great makeup can complete the cross dressing transformation so that it will be hard to tell if you are cross dressing or were born that way.

There are many things to consider when you undergo a cross dressing transformation so that everything blends together. By reading these tips you can blend them so that life is a little easier.

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Crossdressing Makeup

When a man decides to begin cross dressing one of the things that he will have to master is the art of makeup. Cross dressing makeup can be difficult for a man unless he takes the time to learn that there is more to makeup than just tossing some on your face. There is preparation that needs to be done so that the finished product is smooth and flawless.

One of the things that will inhibit how flawless your cross dressing makeup can be is facial hair. There are procedures that you can have done that will actually eliminate all traces of facial hair. That would mean never having to shave again and definitely never having to worry about the shadows that can form where your beard should be. But if a procedure of that form is not something you can do at the time, at least buy the best razor there is to get the hair as short as possible or maybe even wax the hair off.

Once you have fixed the problem of facial hair you will need to think of what you can do to make your face as smooth and soft as can be. The reason that is important is because once you apply the makeup it can be obvious where there was dry skin or anything of that nature. To help cleanse and soften the skin there are some wonderful facial cleansers available that help with other stuff such as acne as well. Once you’ve washed the face, simply apply facial lotion to everywhere but the eyes of course.

Even though men have more facial hair, it seems that they don’t always get blessed with the best eyelashes. If that is the case then there are fake eyelashes that you can use that will save you from having to worry about bothering with mascara. All you need is some fake lashes and some lash glue that will help hold them on until you’re done with them. It’s best to buy lashes that have the little spaces between each lash as they will conform to your eyelid much better.

Now that your face is shaved and moisturized you can begin worrying about applying your cross dressing makeup. If there is still hint of a beard after you apply your foundation you can simply cover it with some orange lipstick, some camo paint (used by hunters and such) or simply beard concealer. Once you’ve covered your face with foundation and covered your beard in whichever way works best for you, you will need to cover your face with powder. Make sure when you purchase the powder that you match the shade to the color of your skin.

With the base of the makeup now in place you can finish up the look by adding some eye shadow, blush and lipstick. Picking out any one of those three can be very difficult as there are so many to pick from. When you do, keep in mind what kind of look you are going for. If you want glam, pick some dramatic colors. If you are simply going shopping, softer tones would work best. Lipstick is nice if you can buy the stuff that you can wear all day because then you just need some shimmer gloss to keep your lips fresh all day.

Crossdressing makeup is something that can add interest to even the simplest of outfits. Have fun with it.

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Crossdressing Tips

Cross dressing tips are very valuable to those that have decided to start cross dressing. But finding cross dressing tips aren’t always easy to find as many don’t understand the lifestyle. Fortunately for those needing cross dressing tips I will list a few for you that can make the whole new venture a little more interesting.

Clothing is very important as one of the cross dressing tips. I know that some will look at the outfits that the opposite sex wear and have something in mind that they want to try for themselves. But for those men that wish to wear women’s clothing you might find it hard to find a top that will fit you right. Main reason being something very obvious that women have and men don’t, breasts. When clothing designers make blouses and tops they make them so that they can fit breasts into them. There are designers that cater to those who wish to cross dress and can make tops that will look like they belong on a woman but can be worn by a man. Easiest way to fix that problem so that you can shop anywhere would be to purchase a bra that looks and feels like it has real breasts in it. Companies are making them specifically for those who wish to look as if they have breasts when they don’t or simply have bigger ones then they really do. A way for you to start the transition into women’s clothing would be to purchase a pair of women’s jeans. Start wearing those around and get yourself comfortable in them.

Most men who wish to dress like women will at some point in time wish to try high heels. This is one of the cross dressing tips that I really want to emphasize is that men in general have a hard time with high heels. Not just because of the height added to someone but also because men are just built differently. They have bigger calves than most women, bigger feet and an overall bigger frame. To wear high heels is hard for some women to do but for a man, it takes practice. If you really want to be able to wear high heels in public that’s fine, just practice in private first. Walk around your house in high heels so that if you look silly or maybe fall, nobody is there to laugh or tease you. Takes a lot of the stress out of it.

Makeup is a hard thing for men to be able to apply correctly to themselves when they first learn to cross dress. Mainly because they see something they like on a woman and try to copy it. But what they don’t take into consideration is that just because it looks good on a woman doesn’t mean it will on a man. Before you apply your makeup and head out for a night on the town you might want to get some pointers. Head to the local makeup counter and ask them to help you find the best makeup for you. Colors, shades and what foundation would be best are all things that they will be able to help you with.

By combining all of my cross dressing tips you can now have that perfect look that will make everything fall into place.

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How to Cross Dress

Millions of people each day wake up and decide that they want to try something new. For some it will be to go to the salon for a new hair do. For others it might be something completely different such as they want to learn how to cross dress. There are different levels of extremity that you can take when you learn how to cross dress, each one step further into the role of another gender. But to step into the role of cross dressing you can learn how to cross dress so that you can make the transition smoothly and with less commotion.

If you are a man wishing to dress like a woman something that you should keep in mind when you learn how to cross dress is that what looks good on a woman won’t necessarily look good on a man. Women are made differently and so therefore, so are their clothes. Companies have realized that and have made a few things that someone can purchase to make a man look far more feminine. There are bras made to look and feel like a real breast that you can buy to make that beautiful shirt look just right. Makes it nice if there was a shirt that you really wanted that just didn’t look right without the breasts to complete the ensemble.

For those men that wish to learn how to cross dress makeup is something you will wonder about sooner or later. Thing with makeup is that not all men know the right way to apply makeup. What you might think looks great on someone else might not be the way that your makeup is shown to others. If you really want to wear makeup the best way to learn how to apply it would either be to go to ask for help from someone you know or to go to the makeup counter to have them show you. Those people are paid to know how to best apply makeup and so can give you some of the best tips there are to get the look you want.

Wearing high heels is something that most men will try to figure out when they learn how to cross dress. Heels are at times a problem for many women let alone a man who is shaped differently, is usually taller, and has differently shaped feet than most ladies. Before you go out in public wearing heels you might consider walking around your home in them so that you have the process down. That way if you fall or look silly, no one else is there to point it out to you.

When you learn how to cross dress you will likely want to try everything you’ve learned when you go to town. Keep in mind that not everyone is going to accept your new look and be prepared for how you will react. People have an uncanny knack for making others feel bad about something that they really enjoy. If you already have prepared what you will say or do, it will make it a lot easier on yourself.

Now that you know how to cross dress go out and enjoy the world from a different point of view.

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MTF Crossdressing

Male to female crossdressing, also known as MTF crossdressing, is something that is gaining in popularity. Many men today are trying this trend and actually have been able to give the look of being a true woman. There are many things that help them to do that including the clothing they use, the hair they wear and the makeup they choose. All of these things make the MTF cross dressing experience more like male to femme transformation. I’ve actually seen many crossdressers before and have had to take a second look to see if that was really a man dressed as a woman. But the people who have been able to accomplish this have mastered the art by following a few simple guidelines that helped them make the transformation complete.

When one decides that they want to try MTF crossdressing they need to understand that just because you want to look like a woman, not everything that is made for a woman will look right on a man. Annoying but it’s true. Most all women’s tops and blouses are made to accommodate breasts which let’s face it, men just don’t have. If you want to make your venture permanent then yes, you can have breast augmentation so that you have breasts permanently there. But if you are simply trying out MTF cross dressing then something that you might try is buy a bra that makes you look as though you have breasts. There are several on the market that can make you look as though you have very natural looking breasts. They will give you not only the look of real breasts but the feel as well.

When shopping for clothes, you might try looking in a store that caters to those that like to crossdress. They will have clothing in their store that is made to look good on a man that wants to look like a woman. Clothing designers know that there is a market for that particular type of clothing need and have tapped into it making stores like this easier and easier to find. Also there are many online stores that you can visit that will have exactly what you are looking for.

Makeup is something that can complete any person that is trying MTF crossdressing. It can give you a look of true femininity but you must know how to apply it. One of the number one problems for men that chose this lifestyle is that they will see a look in a magazine or on someone else and try to imitate it whether it is a look for them or not. They like it so they try it. But what looks spectacular on one person can make another person look as though a clown rubbed faces with them. To avoid that ever happening, try having someone show you how to purchase and then apply the right makeup for you. If you don’t know anybody that can help you then try talking to someone at the nearest makeup counter as they are paid to know what looks good.

Keeping all of these things in mind will make MTF cross dressing something that holds fun as well as creativity.

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